Doing Marriage God’s Way:
An Expose on Marriage
Greetings of Grace, Mercy and Peace in the Matchless Name of our Lord Jesus Christ by whom we have received the mandate to provide the Biblical truths, relevant tools and the practical tips that can help couples enjoy marriage as God intended.
God ordained marriage to be blissful, fruitful and fulfilling. It’s His desire that the marriage of every believer should be a foretaste of heaven on earth and a reflection of the love and unity between Christ and the Church. See Ephesians 5:21-33. Is that possible? Yes it is.
God never ordained marriage to make you bitter. A thousand times no. God ordained marriage to make you better. Everything God does is always good. God said that it is not good that the man be alone, I will make him a helper comparable to Him. See Genesis 2:18. God ordained marriage to add value to your life. He said, “Two are better than one.” See Ecclesiastes 4:9. I believe it because God is never wrong.
He has always scheduled good things for us for every area of our lives including our marriages. Every area of your life is important to God. He wants you happy, healthy and whole. See 1 Thessalonians 5:23-24: 3 John 2; Nehemiah 8:10. God is a caring and compassionate Father. He is not a heartless judge. See Matthew 7:9-11; Luke 18:1-7.
God cares about you. He wants your marriage to be a success story and not another statistic. That’s why we believe that every marriage has a hundred percent chance of success if done correctly according to God’s Pattern, His Purpose and His principles.
Marriages flourish when couples celebrate each other in an atmosphere of unconditional love and acceptance, affirmation and praise. Couples blossom when they cherish and nourish one another. But marriages fail and flounder when couples disparage and destroy each other with negative words.
Galatians 5:13-15 NKJV
For you, brethren, have been called to liberty; only do not use liberty as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another. For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this: “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” But if you bite and devour one another, beware lest you be consumed by one another!
Ephesians 4:25-27 KJV
Wherefore putting away lying, speak every man truth with his neighbour: for we are members one of another. Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: Neither give place to the devil.
Satan cannot destroy any marriage without the cooperation or consent of one or both parties. It takes two to make a marriage work. Each party must do whatever it takes to make it work. In a healthy marriage, both couple seek to serve one another. Each one seeks the good and the wellbeing of the other party. Healthy marriages are built on selfless, self sacrificing and self giving love. Anything built on selfishness will destroy itself because Love builds while selfishness destroys. See Galatians 5:13-15; James 3:16; John 13:34-35.
1 Peter 4:8 NKJV
And above all things have fervent love for one another, for “love will cover a multitude of sins.”
If we focus on meeting the needs of one another instead of using and exploiting one another for personal gain and aggrandizement we will find the path to a richer and more fulfilling marriage. I challenge every married couple to embrace the challenge of Love in this season and choose to do acts of love for their spouses more than what they deserve or expect. If both of you practice this towards one another, you will experience heaven on earth. Hallelujah!
Titus 2:4-5 KJV
that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.
Ephesians 5:25-29 KJV
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church.
I challenge husbands and wives to outdo one another in love. No offensive or negative words should be spoken to your spouse. This can lead to bitterness, anger or wrath. When a spouse is constantly provoked it will affect the quality of the marriage. Make your spouse feel valuable in your presence. Don’t put them down. Uplift and encourage them.
Speak positive words about them consistently. Love is a choice. Love is the unconditional disposition of goodwill to the undeserving. It is the unconditional commitment to the wellbeing of another. Love is the irrevocable commitment to an imperfect person. The success of any marriage requires the collective participation of both parties working together towards the success of the marriage. Marriage works when we work.
We also have to commit to pray for one another. We pray for those we love and we love those we pray for. As we make time to pray for our spouses turning the challenges in their lives into a project we will find our love life developing. We have to also learn to pray together. Prayer unites us. It binds our hearts as one. It fuses us together spiritually, mentally and emotionally.