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Doing Marriage God’s Way: An Expose on Marriage

Doing Marriage God’s Way:
An Expose on Marriage

Dearly Beloved,

Greetings of Grace, Mercy and Peace in the Matchless Name of our Lord Jesus Christ by whom we have received the mandate to provide the Biblical truths, relevant tools and the practical tips that can help couples enjoy marriage as God intended.

God ordained marriage to be blissful, fruitful and fulfilling. It’s His desire that the marriage of every believer should be a foretaste of heaven on earth and a reflection of the love and unity between Christ and the Church. See Ephesians 5:21-33. Is that possible? Yes it is.

God never ordained marriage to make you bitter. A thousand times no. God ordained marriage to make you better. Everything God does is always good. God said that it is not good that the man be alone, I will make him a helper comparable to Him. See Genesis 2:18. God ordained marriage to add value to your life. He said, “Two are better than one.” See Ecclesiastes 4:9. I believe it because God is never wrong.

He has always scheduled good things for us for every area of our lives including our marriages. Every area of your life is important to God. He wants you happy, healthy and whole. See 1 Thessalonians 5:23-24: 3 John 2; Nehemiah 8:10. God is a caring and compassionate Father. He is not a heartless judge. See Matthew 7:9-11; Luke 18:1-7.

God cares about you. He wants your marriage to be a success story and not another statistic. That’s why we believe that every marriage has a hundred percent chance of success if done correctly according to God’s Pattern, His Purpose and His principles.

Marriages flourish when couples celebrate each other in an atmosphere of unconditional love and acceptance, affirmation and praise. Couples blossom when they cherish and nourish one another. But marriages fail and flounder when couples disparage and destroy each other with negative words.

Galatians 5:13-15 NKJV
For you, brethren, have been called to liberty; only do not use liberty as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another. For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this: “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” But if you bite and devour one another, beware lest you be consumed by one another!

Ephesians 4:25-27 KJV
Wherefore putting away lying, speak every man truth with his neighbour: for we are members one of another. Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: Neither give place to the devil.

Satan cannot destroy any marriage without the cooperation or consent of one or both parties. It takes two to make a marriage work. Each party must do whatever it takes to make it work. In a healthy marriage, both couple seek to serve one another. Each one seeks the good and the wellbeing of the other party. Healthy marriages are built on selfless, self sacrificing and self giving love. Anything built on selfishness will destroy itself because Love builds while selfishness destroys. See Galatians 5:13-15; James 3:16; John 13:34-35.

1 Peter 4:8 NKJV
And above all things have fervent love for one another, for “love will cover a multitude of sins.”

If we focus on meeting the needs of one another instead of using and exploiting one another for personal gain and aggrandizement we will find the path to a richer and more fulfilling marriage. I challenge every married couple to embrace the challenge of Love in this season and choose to do acts of love for their spouses more than what they deserve or expect. If both of you practice this towards one another, you will experience heaven on earth. Hallelujah!

Titus 2:4-5 KJV
that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.

Ephesians 5:25-29 KJV
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church.

I challenge husbands and wives to outdo one another in love. No offensive or negative words should be spoken to your spouse. This can lead to bitterness, anger or wrath. When a spouse is constantly provoked it will affect the quality of the marriage. Make your spouse feel valuable in your presence. Don’t put them down. Uplift and encourage them.

Speak positive words about them consistently. Love is a choice. Love is the unconditional disposition of goodwill to the undeserving. It is the unconditional commitment to the wellbeing of another. Love is the irrevocable commitment to an imperfect person. The success of any marriage requires the collective participation of both parties working together towards the success of the marriage. Marriage works when we work.

We also have to commit to pray for one another. We pray for those we love and we love those we pray for. As we make time to pray for our spouses turning the challenges in their lives into a project we will find our love life developing. We have to also learn to pray together. Prayer unites us. It binds our hearts as one. It fuses us together spiritually, mentally and emotionally.



Who We Are, Why We Are and What We do

Who We Are, Why We Are and What We do

Psalm 82:5; Ephesians 5:15-17; Colossians 1:9-11; Philippians 1:9-11

Purpose is the reason for a thing. It is the original purpose for which a thing is created or made.

Your purpose is your why. It has been said that the man who knows how will always have a job but the man who knows why will always be his boss.

You cannot fully enjoy divine provision until you first of all discover and align with Divine Purpose. Purpose is the key to unlocking Divine Power and unleashing your potential. See Ephesians 1:15-19

What is the Church?

The Word “Church” is from the Greek Word, “EKKlesia” it refers to a calling out, a popular meeting, an assembly or a church. It also refers to a religious congregation. The Church is the called out ones assembled or the assembly of the called out ones.

There are several expressions of the Word Church:

  1. The Global Church. This refers to everyone who has made Jesus Christ their Lord. It refers to the entire Body of believers the world over. See 1 Corinthians 1:2; Acts 2:21; 1 Peter 5:9.
  2. The Local Church: This refers to a Body of Christ in a particular locality. See 1 Corinthians 1:2; 2 Corinthians 1:1; 1 Thessalonians 1:1; 2 Thessalonians 1:1; Galatians 1:2; Colossians 4:16
  3. The House Church. This refers to the Body of believers who meet in a home setting. See Acts 2:46; 5:42; 20:20-21; Acts 8:3; Romans 16:3-5; 1 Corinthians 16:19; Colossians 4:15 (Women can lead house churches. 2 John 1:1,13; 1 Peter 5:13)

What is the Church?

Identity is one of the keys to fulfilling destiny. Identity is also one of the keys to unlocking your authority. Identity is also the key to enjoying your rights and privileges, that is, your inheritance. Identity is the key to security. Until you know who you really are, you will be insecure.

It is important to note that the Church is first of an organism before it is on organization. It is the living, breathing, pulsating temple of the Living God.

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  1. The Church is the Body of Christ. That is we are members of His Body. Whatever flows in Him, flows in us. See 1 Corinthians 6:15-17; 12:12-14,27; Romans 12:4-5; Ephesians 1:22-23; 4:4,15-16; Colossians 1:18,24; 2:9-10; 2:19
  2. The Church is the Temple of the Holy Spirit. See 1 Corinthians 3:16-17; 6:19-20. We are the temple of the Holy Spirit. He dwells in us. His Person, His Presence and His Power is available to us because He lives in us. The Holy Ghost is in you 24/7. See Ephesians 2:21-22
  3. The Church refers to the family of God. You cannot be a member of the Church until you are born again. That is, you have received Jesus Christ as your Lord and Personal Savior. The Church is an assembly of God’s children. See Hebrews 12:22-24; John 20:17; Ephesians 2:19-20; Matthew 6:9; Galatians 3:26; Ephesians 3:14-15. You cannot be a part of the Church unless you have been reborn.
  4. The Church refers to the body of believers both Jew and Gentiles, male and female who believe in Jesus Christ as the only means of salvation. See Matthew 16:13-19; 1 Corinthians 10:4; Acts 2:41,47; 4:4,12; 11:15-18; 15:14; Galatians 3:26-29; Ephesians 2:11-19
  5. The Church refers to the citizens of heaven who are living on earth. See Ephesians 2:19; Philippians 3:20 NIV; Colossians 3:1-4
  6. The Church refers to the Saints of God: Saints is from the Word hagios which means holy ones, sacred, pure, consecrated. We are separated unto God and called to live a holy life. See 1 Corinthians 1:2; Romans 1:7; Ephesians 1:1; 4:1,13; Philippians 1:1; Colossians 1:1; 2 Corinthians 6:14-7:1; 2 Peter 2:17-22
  7. The Church refers to the Bride of Christ. We are the Bride of Christ. See Hosea 2:19-20; Isaiah 54:5; Jeremiah 3:14; Ephesians 5:22-33; 2 Corinthians 11:2-3; Revelation 19:7-9; 21:9
  8. The Church is the Army of God. We are the army of the Lord on the earth advancing the purposes and the interests of the kingdom of God in the earth. See Acts 7:37-38; Exodus 6:26; 7:4; 12:17; 12:51; 13:18 MSG; Numbers 13:1; Matthew 16:18-19; 16:13-19; Matthew 16:18-19 AMPC, GNT, NASB, MSG. We are God’s Law Enforcement Agents. God has delegated authority to the Church on earth. See Matthew 28:18-20; Luke 10:17-19; Matthew 23:1-3; Acts 25:6,10,17. We are seated with Christ in the heavenly places. See Ephesians 2:19-23; 2:4-7; Revelation 3:21. We are an army defending and protecting the interests of the kingdom of God in the earth. See 1 Corinthians 9:7; 1 Timothy 1:18; 2 Timothy 2:3-4 NASB; Ephesians 6:10-19
  9. The Church is a Assembly of Kings and Priests. As Kings we defend and advance the purposes of the kingdom. As Priests we intercede for the people and we teach them God’s Word. As kings we have authority. As Priests we have intimacy with God. See Revelation 1:5-6; 5:9-10; Matthew 16:18-19; 18:18-20; Luke 10:17-20; 1 Peter 2:5,9; Isaiah 61:6
  10. The Church is God’s Building, I mean, a Spiritual House. We the people are God’s Building. He is building our lives into a spiritual habitation for His Spirit. See 1 Corinthians 3:9; Ephesians 2:21-22; 4:15-16; Colossians 2:7; 1 Peter 2:5
  11. The Church is God’s field, His garden or His vineyard. Individually we are trees; Together we are His field or His garden. See Psalm 1:1-3; 80:15; 92:12-14; Isaiah 53:2; 60:21; 61:3; 1 Corinthians 3:9; John 15:1-6; 2 Timothy 2:6
  12. The Church is the assembly of His prized possessions, the redeemed, those He bought with His own blood. See Acts 20:28; 1 Corinthians 6:19-20; 7:23; Colossians 1:12-14; 1 Peter 1:18-19; 3:4; Revelation 5:9
  13. The Church refers to those who are spiritually circumcised, that is, the circumcision of the heart. It is the assembly of the changed ones, those who have a new heart and a new spirit. See Ezekiel 36:25-27; Ezekiel 11:19; Jeremiah 32:39-40; Romans 2:28-29; Galatians 6:15-16; 5:6. The Church is the assembly of the New Creation.
  14. The Church refers to those who have a covenant with God through the Blood of our Lord Jesus Christ. Their sins have been remitted, washed away and they are in covenant union with deity. See Matthew 26:26-28; 1 Corinthians 11:23-26; Ephesians 2:11-16; Hebrews 7:22; 8:6; 9:11-22; 10:19-22; 1 Corinthians 6:17; John 17:22-23; Hebrews 8:10-12; 10:16-18
  15. The Church is a new race. We are chosen race, a new breed of people who have union with deity. See Exodus 19:5-6; Deuteronomy 7:6; 14:2; Deuteronomy 26:18-19; 1 Peter 2:9 AMPC; Revelation 1:6 AMPC; 5:10 AMPC; Deuteronomy 10:15; Isaiah 43:20
  16. The Church is a sheepfold. We are the Lord’s sheep, His sheepfold or His flock. He is our Shepherd and the Bishop of our souls. See Numbers 27:15-17; Acts 7:37-38; Psalm 23:1-6; 100:3; Matthew 9:35-36; Luke 12:32; John 1:1-16; Ezekiel 34:31; 34:1-31; 37:24; John 21:15-17; Acts 20:28-30; 1 Peter 2:25: 5:1-4; Hebrews 13:20-21

Now let us look at the primary purposes of the Church

Now let us look at the primary purposes of the Church:

  1. To Magnify God: The primary purpose of the Church is to glorify God and to magnify Him before the sons of men. All that we do in the Body of Christ has one primary purpose, that is, TO GLORIFY GOD. When this becomes the chief aim or goal of all our activities, it streamlines our focus and purifies our motives. See Isaiah 43:7; 43:21; Psalm 86:9; Matthew 5:13-16; John 15:8; 17:4; Romans 1:8; 15:5-6; 1 Corinthians 6:19-20; 10:31-32; 1 Thessalonians 1:4-10; 1 Peter 2:9; 2:11-12; 4:10-11
  2. To Mirror Him. We are called to reveal and to reflect the Charisma and the Character of Christ, that is, the Love and the Life of Christ, the Person and the Power of Christ. Christianity is the revelation of Christ in a human person. It is Christ reproduced in a man. That is the essence of Christianity. The Church exists to show Christ to the world. They should look at us and see Jesus. See Acts 4:13; Galatians 4:19 KJV, GNT, NLT, MSG; John 14:12; 13:34-35; 15:12-13; Romans 8:28-29; 1 Corinthians 12:7; 2 Corinthians 3:17-18; Philippians 2:14-15; Colossians 1:24-27; James 2:14-26; John 17:22-23,26; 1 Peter 2:21-22; 1 John 2:5-6
  3. Missions: We exist to expand the influence and the impact of the kingdom of God in the earth by winning souls. It’s our primary purpose. The Church is a soul winning venture. It is a spiritual organization with the sole aim of bringing people out of darkness into the light. See Acts 13:47-48; 26:16-19. The Church is more than a gathering. It is the consulate of the kingdom of God for the purpose of colonizing the nations. See Matthew 28:19-20; Mark 16:15; Matthew 24:14; Mark 13:10. We are called and commissioned to reach out to the lost. See Luke 19:10; 15:1-10; Acts 8:4-13. Soul winning is the primary aim of the Church. See 1 Corinthians 9:19-23; 10:31-33; 1 Peter 3:1-2; 1 Corinthians 7:16
  4. Membership. Those we win have to organized into a local church and cell groups for the purpose of fellowship and mutual edification. A Church is no church if there’s no mutual interaction or fellowship amongst its members. There must be mutual connection between members. It is association of likeminded people. See Philippians 1:27; Hebrews 10:24-25; Acts 2:1-4; 41,46-47; 4:4; 5:14; 6:7; 20:7; 1 Corinthians 12:12
  5. Maturity. We have to work to see that our members grow up spiritually. This happens when teach and preach the Word of God and make it our Rule Book for all matters of faith and practice. A Mature Christian thinks, speaks and does the Word. See 1 Peter 2:1-2; Galatians 4:1-2 KJV; Romans 8:14-17; 8:18-22; Galatians 4:1-7; Ephesians 4:11-16
  6. Mutual Love and Edification: We exist to build one another up and to edify one another. We are called to encourage one another, pray for one another share with one another. The Church is a place of mutual love. It is community that thrives on selflessness and self sacrifice. See Acts 2:44-46; 4:34-37; John 13:34-35; 1 Corinthians 12:12-27; Philippians 2:1-11; Romans 15:1-6. We are called to help and support one another in times of need. See Acts 11:27-30; 12:25; Romans 15:25-26; 1 Corinthians 16:1-2; 2 Corinthians 8:1-15
  7. Mentorship. The Church is a place of mentorship and apprenticeship. People need to be mentored and discipled by mature believers. Every church must set up a system and structures that will facilitate mentorship. See Mark 3:13-15; Philippians 2:19-22; 1 Corinthians 4:15-17; 1 Timothy 4:6-8; 2 Timothy 3:14-17
  8. Ministry. We have to equip and empower the saints to serve and minister in the Body of Christ. Every believer has a Ministry within and outside the Body of Christ. We are called to serve in the kingdom and in the Marketplace. The Church is a place of Equipping and Empowering people to effectively use their gifts and abilities to serve the interests of the kingdom of God by creating value within the Church and in the Marketplace. See Ephesians 2:10; Acts 11:22-26; Acts 13:1-4; Ephesians 4:11-12,16; Galatians 5:13; 1 Peter 4:10-11; Romans 12:4-8
  9. Manifestations: We are called to demonstrate and manifest the Power of God to the church and to the world. We are called to make God real to the peoples of this world by the demonstration of God’s Power wherever we go. See Mark 16:17-18; 16:20; 1 Corinthians 2:4-5; 12:4-11; Acts 4:29-31,33; 5:12-16; 8:5-13; 14:3; 19:11-12
  10. Multiplication. God has called us to multiply disciples and churches everywhere. Every church is called to reproduce itself by raising disciples. We are called to plant churches that plant other churches. This is a kingdom and every kingdom seeks to spread and expand its geographical territory and influence. The kingdom of God is no different. We must keep planting and pioneering new churches by multiplying disciples through an active, effective leadership development system. See Acts 8:4-13; 11:19-21; 16:9-10; 2 Timothy 2:2

Consider This: The Paradox of God: When Least Expected

Consider This:
The Paradox of God: When Least Expected

1 Corinthians 2:6-8 NKJV
However, we speak wisdom among those who are mature, yet not the wisdom of this age, nor of the rulers of this age, who are coming to nothing. But we speak the wisdom of God in a mystery, the hidden wisdom which God ordained before the ages for our glory, which none of the rulers of this age knew; for had they known, they would not have crucified the Lord of glory.

God is a thousand thousand times amazingly smart and astonishingly brilliant than we could ever know. When we study the history of God’s dealings with men we will notice that every time it seems that man has come to the end of Himself, that’s when God steps in.

2 Corinthians 4:6 NKJV
For it is the God who commanded light to shine out of darkness, who has shone in our hearts to give the light of the knowledge of the glory of God in the face of Jesus Christ.

Matthew 4:16 NKJV
The people who sat in darkness have seen a great light,
And upon those who sat in the region and shadow of death Light has dawned.”

You will also notice that in the darkest and blackest of times, God shines His light of Hope through the darkness. For instance, When the children of Israel were under Roman occupation and the reign of Herod, they had no idea that it was the appropriate time that Messiah would be born. God always shows up when men least expect Him to. Think about that for a moment. That’s why His coming will be like a thief in the night.

When Pharaoh was killing the male seed of Israel, no one would have thought that it was the time that their deliverer would be born. Interestingly, Moses was nurtured, raised and cultured in Pharaoh’s house. All that Moses learned was used for the furtherance of God’s plan and purpose for Israel. Think about it.

When Israel was under siege by the Philistines with Goliath as their leader and champion, no one would have thought that was when one of the greatest Kings of Israel would introduced to the world as an outstanding warrior. David emerged when Saul hid. In these times, men and women after God’s heart will be launched to the forefront. Selah

When Jesus was been tortured before He was nailed to the cross at the crucifixion, it seemed it was all over for this new faith and the way of life that He purported. When He gave up the ghost and was buried, it seemed as if it was forever closed that Christianity was a thing of the past, but they did not know about the resurrection. After that dark moment in history came the greatest story of victory ever told: Victory over death.

A man once gloated about the end of Christianity. He boasted that Christianity would be a thing of the past, amazingly, it was from his house that the first printed Bible was produced. It is inconceivable to think that God can be defeated. God always wins. The Bible always outlives its critics. Christianity always outlasts its prosecutors.

This present challenge will not end Christianity. It will birth a new phase of God’s work in the earth. God will bring a new thing out of this. He will raise a new breed of people, a remnant totally sold out to the furtherance of the kingdom of God with no personal or private agenda. He will make the devil pay. Yes He will! People are desperately searching for truth. Are you aware that more people are reading the Bible these days more than ever. Are you aware that souls are been saved online? Keep your eyes open. Be alert, in the midst of this, God is up to something. Selah

In His Majesty’s Service,


Further Reading:
Daniel 6:1-28; 3:8-30; Esther 7:10; 9:25